Doing it all
Wednesday, January 20, 2010 at 4:47PM 
We cannot do it all.
Say it with me, ladies (and gentlemen, if you are out there, chime in too). Seriously. Stand up, throw back your head and let’s whoop together in our outside voices:
We cannot do it all!
I say “we” because I know that we have this struggle together, this struggle for a life that is full of the things we love and need to do, the things our children and families need and love. Our marriages. Our work. Our desire to be fully human and humane and participating in the world.
But we cannot do it all.
This is a realization that I come to regularly. About twice a day. Easily. And I say this hanging my head with a due degree of shame… each and every time I discover it I am just as surprised as I was the first time.
My morning dose of this reality came as I was standing in my underwear in the gym locker room, looking into a gym bag that contained no sneakers.
I can do quite a bit. I will not bore you with the list, but I actually did do quite a bit today before foiling my own attempt at squeezing a workout into it all.
The second dose is coming right now as I sit here beside a sniffling boy who started the day with some sneezes, which then progressed slowly to glassy, baggy eyes and listlessness. I am looking at him and sighing deeply and thinking about how this is the afternoon before I have a busy, booked-every-second kind of day at work.
I cannot do it all.
But there are things I can do. I can hold the door for that woman struggling with her stroller. I can tuck my sniffling boy in and bring him tea. I can be kind.
And I can stop for a bunch of budding willows at the corner store. I can bring a little bit of beauty into our home. Something to gaze at just now, to remind me that at the end of this winter there will be spring.
This is just a season.
It is always just a season and there will always be spring.
Struggles in Family time, Life in the slow lane, Mom's goals 
Reader Comments (4)
Great post! We all put so much pressure on ourselves to do it all. We can be so hard on ourselves. I felt so bad when I read that you got all the way down to the gym and realized you didn't have your sneakers. ugh! I think we can all relate. It makes you want to just shake your head and ask WHY???!!! I hope that little cutie pie of yours feels better soon. I think that you should be kind to yourself tonight and make yourself a nice hot cup of tea too.
You have it right, though. You can do everything that is necessary by responding to the present moment.
I either have so much on my mind lately that I'm beginning to forget important facts--like my phone number--or it's early onset Alzheimer's and by early onset I mean early since I'm not quite yet 40.
Let's keep our fingers crossed for the too much on my mind option.
So thank you for the reminder.
Yea *sigh* this is a hard lesson to remember. When we try to do it all we just end up tired and our family strained. Less is more, isn't it?